The Question - Who am I? is one that is rarely asked. In the same way that the question of what to eat should be determined by the where and the when (Food Talk 1) our brains are constantly reconstructing our working identity. Instead of asking Who am I? The better question is Who am I now?
All nature can only be understood in terms of opposing cycles originating from the combination of the forces or magnetism and electricity. We humans are one form of natures expression. We can not separate the self from it self no matter how much try.
At different times in my life I have been weak, I have been foolish, desperate , scared, addicted. So I ask not who am I but who am I now?
Now I am the over comer of obstacles.
The process of neurological change is one of incremental shifts over a gradual period of time as aggressive shifts tend to be traumas that the biology has to work very hard to adapt to fast. If it succeeds you will change fast but if you over whelm it you will fall back into the preconditioned pattern. I am constantly pushing the boundaries of change. At different times in my life I have believed what other have told me. Guard your thoughts.
I will put it this way - If you have a child that lies to you do not call them a liar instead call them honest and then question why they are not acting in accordance with their identity as an honest person. This causes the question who am I, children are developing their identities so being called a liar can become entrenched in their identity and what do liars do?...they lie. If the child is called honest then the act of lying is in conflict to the identity as an honest person. What do honest people do? they tell the truth so being established as honest the act of lying becomes strange and unnecessary as opposed to a byproduct of an identification with lying.
Now go back to your child hood. Who were you told that you were? How has that affected your development?
If you want a person to act like a leader follow them, If you want a person to be strong give them opportunities to be strong, if you want your man to be a bad ass tell him he is a badass. If you call him weak he will be weak.
The difference between a crazy person and a brilliant leader is the first follower who both shows the person that he is a leader simply by having a person follow him and also encourages others to follow. Be smart when yopu interact with others. Most people contain the potential to either be a person overcome by obstacles or an overcomer of obstacles. The obstacles don't change who you were doesn't change but the question who am I now? that answer can change. I was a victim now I am a victor and me being a victim was just motivation for me to learn how to be a victor.
Suspend Your Disbelief.
Then start to walk a new path. This new path takes time but it is far better to be a person building a new road than someone racing forward on a road that leads to shame and guilt which are the two most negative emotions.
If you can overcome your own shame and guilt I belief that you can over come any other negative aspect of yourself. Maybe you were those things and now you are the one who has overcome those things. Maybe the story that is your life has the potential to be an amazing synergistic journey. Redefine your identity and your actions will follow.
When you talk to other build trust and empower them to be the best versions of themselves. your communities ideas about themselves is made up of the identifications you give them. Take responsibility not just for yourself (which is a difficult task) but for those around you. Show them their potential instead of their failures. Give others the opportunity to be the best versions of themselves and they will both become better but also value you as person that brings others up. The more negativity you put on a person the less likely they are to become better so now you become a participant in their negative expression.
Who am I now?
I am not who I was.
Rob Alexander is on a journey to learn not just about health but everything else.
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