Road Blocks To Change

​There is a long list of things that oppose change. To many things to make a list. This is one of the reasons it is so hard to change in the first place. The things that oppose change are anything that is not changing. People places and things. As you change some things will change along with you. They will change to remain close to you as you change. Most people places and things will try with all their might to stay the same and if you change you just won't have anything in common anymore. I remember being a child and loving my action figures. I remember thinking to myself and telling others I will always love these action figures. Well, years later guess what. I changed and the action figures didn't so we grew apart. No hard feelings just nothing in common. I can look back on them with fond memories but I'm not tempted to go back to playing with them. I look back on my struggles the same way. I changed and all that stuff, places and those people stayed the same, I changed. No hard feelings just nothing in common.
            As much as I loved the action figures and my struggles I'm glad I grew up and now I love new things, no regrets. I hope as you change you feel the same way.

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I wanted to come to this today as I am once again in a place of change. It is amazing how old patterns and addictions seem to shape shift and find their ways into our lives. My most recent battle with caffeine has triggered a lot of old addictive thoughts as it is tied to dopamine in the brain the same as my old favorites alcohol and nicotine. A long with that I have a pattern of getting very excited about things in life that are less realistic and more fantasy. It is all connected.

I can see how those around seem to fall away when changes happen and I'm realizing that very few people are authentically looking for knowledge or self awareness the way that I am. People often will dangle a carrot in front of us. I have known so many talking about what is coming, partnership with no ownership. I am realizing the true importance of direct communication. I see that the time I have spent chasing carrots for other could have been spent doing honest work for myself knowing that I have very little money and very few contacts my ideas are all that give me value. 

So take an honest look at the people around you. Ask yourself if they would really be happy if you broke out of your old patterns. Would they encourage you to change or would they secretly try to sabotage it so that they can stay the same? They will never say that they don't want you to be better off. Look carefully and see if the subtle passive aggressive things others do to hold back become obvious. You may get set up so that it is you not them that are a problem. If this is the case cut your losses there is no way to get others to see themselves honestly and it is not your job to show them. own your choices and go. 

Keep walking forward and be careful of the groups closest to you. We often get a much more objective perspective about ourselves from people not directly impacted by our destinations the closer a person is to you the more they will be forced into change in order to stay close to you. Choose your path and own it. The addictive world is speeding up and I have chosen to do what I have to in order to keep seeing positive change in my life. ​

Today I see things for what they are. It takes courage to be honest with self. The path to self mastery continues.