The Reward Can Never Be The Thing You Quit11/23/2018 Rewarding yourself The addiction will whisper things in your ear and most them make no sense. We listen because we want to believe so bad. This is a lie the addiction uses and it makes no sense but it was so powerful. You're doing so good not ________ing you deserve a _______. Never ever reward yourself with the thing you quit. Reward yourself with something you're not addicted to. If you reward yourself with the thing your giving up you won't be giving it up so what is the reward for. Cheat days are a lousy idea if you want a change in your life. People say well it's too much to just give it up. If you have a cheat day planned than you haven't changed. Diets don't work. They don't work on food or drugs or depression or anything else. You can't be victorious if you already have a planned failure coming up. You don't get to be victorious for a few weeks so that you can go back to loosing again. If you are taking a break from lying but have a new lie planned out for next week then you never took a break to begin with you just used some patience to make it a good one. *I remember writing this. I don't believe in cheat days on substances that you have an addiction to but now 10 years later I am looking for balance. No alcohol but I am experimenting with planned cheat days with my eating. This is hard for me and should not be done right away but now that I am skinnier than I have ever been it is important I learn moderation which is a curse word to me. It had to be for me to get to this point. Always coming back to center.
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The Next Is Never The Last11/4/2018 My last one
Here is a mistake I made a thousand times. This is my last__________. Yeah, fill in the blank. It doesn't matter what it is. You never get to have that one last magical experience with your addiction because then you'll remember the magic and forget it was you last time. You have to quit when your half way through or when it's already over. When you're hung over or feeling sick because of the shame. That's where quitting lives stay there. You give yourself one last great whatever and the chances of you not going back are slim to none. Think this way the last time I _______ was my last time. The next time is never the last time. *I was talking with a friend the other day and trying to explain this idea. if you make the last one of the thing you are trying to quit the experience will be gloried which will make it even harder to quit. You want the last one to be the worst one so that it is easy to remember the negative and not the positive side of the addiction. Some people are planning to quit and other too busy quitting to plan it since not doing a thing doesn't really require that much of a plan. NoteI was an Alcoholic
This blog contains many of the ideas that helped me to get sober and stay sober. Everything in Italics is me now, commenting on the writing from 10 years ago. Everything not in Italics is the 8 year old writing. In some ways I am the same but in others very different that is what make it interesting. AuthorRob Alexander 
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